Here's the background. Some of you know it, but in broad strokes here's what happened. My husband knew he wanted a divorce, but waited until I had left my job, my friends, rented out our house, and traveled with him to Philadelphia to actually tell me that. So, when I left in despair, I was unemployed and homeless -to say nothing of heart-broken. Try as I might to be charitable (he continues to be the father of my children and they sometimes read this blog), the best thing I can say about that behavior is that it was cowardly and not consistent with his best self.
However, there is some good news. The tenants in our house have agreed to vacate the lease as of December 1. So I can move back into the old homestead. At least one source of fear and frustration will be eliminated from my life. I don't know if I can afford to keep the house forever. Or even, really, if I have the skills to keep it; it's a 100-year-old bundle of needs. I'm considering my options there. But for now, I will have my own space.
Therefore, I'm having a launch party. You know how publishers have launch parties for new books? That's the idea. It's the old house, but we're dedicating it to its new purpose. I'm launching a new life in this cozy, welcoming old space. Please come help me do it.
Friday, December 14.
6:30-ish until we wear ourselves out
If you're coming from out of town and want to spend the night, just let me know.
If you don't know where the house is, send me an e-mail.
13 comments:
Oh sweetie, I will be in Moscow (yes, THAT Moscow) that week but if I was in the country, I'd kidnap Jill and fly us out on FF Miles to help you christen your new life.
I'll raise a glass of well chilled vodka your direction in toast. I'm sure you will have a full house.
Oh wouldn't that have been fun, you and Jill at my party??!! Well, another time, dear one.
What a great idea! How in the world did you get your tenants to vacate?
I will be there in spirit...
If you e-mail me your phone number (my first name -at- my url daht cahm - as Franklin would say), I would love to call you and be there at least for a few minutes viva voce. Would that be cool?
And I would totally let Mary kidnap me otherwise, I meant to add!!! ;-)
I'll be there! What a great idea, A!
I wish we could web conference! do you have the technology?
I think your framing of the issue is QUITE charitable and mature. I don't think I could be that good about things.
I wish I lived closer--I would LOVE to come party with you.
You've been in my thoughts so much, I hope you're doing as well as it sounds like you're doing.
Well, darn--one week later and I could have stopped off on my way to my mother's. Have a wonderful time, and you have definitely been in my thoughts and prayers. I'm always glad to see you posting to your blog.
Great news about the house. It may turn out that you don't need or want to stay there, but at least that will be your choice. And you sound like you're doing better - I'm so glad.
I wish I could be there.
Don't you dare let yourself feel "humiliated and small and unlovable." His problems are his problems and really have nothing to do with you.
We love you!
I'll be there in spirit too! (In reality I'll be trapped in some teacher training stuff). Andrea I'm so glad you have a base of operations now.
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