Monday, December 03, 2007

Am I Invisible?

I feel like I've fallen off the planet. I haven't gotten any mail -NONE- in almost two weeks. Not a Christmas card, a netflix video, a credit card offer, or a Wal-Mart flyer. Nothing. It's kind of surreal.

I called the Post Office, and they expressed some confusion. "OK, you were at the this address. You moved and told us you were staying in Philadelphia for a year, but in 6 weeks you were back in DeKalb -at a different address. You told us you didn't know how long you'd be at that address -possibly until June. And now you're back at the original address? Your mail could be pretty much anywhere."

I wanted to suggest that if she thought the mail bit of this was confusing, she should try living the whole scenario. But I didn't. Basically, I'm just supposed to wait, and my mail will catch up with me. So, if you've sent me something, please know that I'm not ignoring you. I probably don't know yet that you sent it.

Two things can get weird about this situation. First, there's a feeling of isolation. What's going on out there that I don't know about? What bills are coming? Where are my pretty new checks with roses on them? But, my friends are doting on me, in real life and my invisible friends on the internet, so isolation's not a huge issue.

The other problem is the phenomenon that with social work clients I call the "but first" tasks. These are the barriers between you and the thing you know you need to do. I need to apply for jobs. But first, I need to set up my new printer so that I can print my CV. But first, I need to get a new USB cord. But first, my new credit card needs to come in the mail. See?

Of course, there's usually a work-around. I can get in my little car and get money out of the bank and go buy a USB cord. It's not a big deal. Nonetheless, the "but firsts" can become pretty overwhelming when there are too many of them. And right now, there are a lot.

I'm grumpy.


jill said...

I'm not sure I can imagine a less invisible person than my friend Andrea.

However, I can sympathize.

Sometimes, I can get a strange, type-A satisfaction out of writing up an ordered list of my "but first" type items and ticking them off as I go. It can create a really satisfying sense of momentum.

But maybe that's just me.

Elisa said...

Andrea, I would go online or make phone calls and get all the important addresses updated, especially credit cards. I would not trust the post office to get this right.

I am a master of the "but first" procrastination strategy.

Lexy said...

I am soooooo not a list person but when things get "serious" I make a list, like suggested, and it's very comforting to see those lines through a "to-do." You can see how much you've accomplished.

Sophie_vf said...


check with Becky - I sent something there a few weeks ago!