tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15450512.post1563034461271821200..comments2023-11-05T06:27:24.362-06:00Comments on A Small Group of Thoughtful, Committed Citizens: Locking My Door vs. Locking My HeartI Drink and I Know Things...http://www.blogger.com/profile/11608248895813409154noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15450512.post-89287028959193858462007-12-21T18:29:00.000-06:002007-12-21T18:29:00.000-06:00I have a lot of friends who put themselves in a vu...I have a lot of friends who put themselves in a vulnerable position mostly financially with their husbands earning and controlling everything. I don't think that was the case with you from what I know. <BR/><BR/>I am *very* independent from my husband, by design, because I grew up in a divorced family. However, if my husband and I were to split, we are used to helping each other live our daily lives and it would be hard no matter how you cut it. <BR/><BR/>You seem to be doing very well BTW.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15450512.post-82901191335333726082007-12-21T11:55:00.000-06:002007-12-21T11:55:00.000-06:00I don't believe it was a mistake for you to trust ...I don't believe it was a mistake for you to trust your husband not to hurt you. It's a shame he wasn't worthy of that trust, though. But please, lock your doors!Elisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00379127127623234292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15450512.post-41527689224650988392007-12-21T09:46:00.000-06:002007-12-21T09:46:00.000-06:00Making a statement is fine unless your safety is a...Making a statement is fine unless your safety is at risk. Locking your doors is the smart thing to do. Getting a dog.....not so smart unless you want a constant companion who needs your care several times a day for years.<BR/><BR/>You know I'm a major dog person; haven't been without one or two for my entire adult life. They are a joy but also work.Lexyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11591979314402318387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15450512.post-8708824019233808322007-12-20T23:22:00.000-06:002007-12-20T23:22:00.000-06:00I think the fact that you can recogize your need t...I think the fact that you can recogize your need to take care of yourself, and your ability and willingness to do so, is quite amazing. A lot of women falling out of long-term committed relationships would not be able to do what you are doing. I applaud you.Lisa :-]https://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15450512.post-82852203509540381712007-12-20T15:56:00.000-06:002007-12-20T15:56:00.000-06:00I think this is a terrific symbol of your new self...I think this is a terrific symbol of your new self-love routines. I understand having done it the other way, too, but change is necessary right now, and change is good.<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, dogs are splendid self-love routines in their own ways.behahahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16999904314187626687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15450512.post-76691229846286273432007-12-20T13:57:00.000-06:002007-12-20T13:57:00.000-06:00I hear you about the locks. When I still had my d...I hear you about the locks. When I still had my dog, I felt secure about being at home alone and <BR/>leaving the house unlocked even though Labs, who love most everyone very enthusiastically, are not very good watchdogs. There were exceptions, she did not like any obviously drunk people we sometimes encountered on walks and would bark at them nonstop. Now I have a heightened sense of vulnerability that comes from being alone and it is not a good feeling. In fact maybe you should get a dog! Total unconditional love, a source of security, and warm feet at night. "The more I know of men, the more I love my dogs" or something like that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com